When I was younger I could always tell my parents were in love. They had that (seemingly) annoying, over-the -top kind of love where it makes you wince as a kid. They'd give eachother kisses openly, share their feelings in front of us and just be sickeningly in love (I'm sorry, but that's just how you feel when you're little...I mean, boys had COOTIES!!). Then when I was a teenager, I saw them as a united front...not the kind of parents where you could ask one parent and they'd say "no" and then you could go ask the other and then you'd get a "yes" (and SCORE! You've gotten away with something you knew you shouldn't!!...yea, that was never me) because if I asked my dad if I could do something he'd say "did you ask your mother?" knowing full well what she would say. I found it to be frustrating back when I was trying to be sneaky. It was rare (if ever) that I got to pull a fast one on my parents! These days, I am grateful for the example that they've set for me on how a relationship should be. One that holds respect and love and cherishes every aspect of the relationship (my how views change as we grow up).
Here are some tips from my mom (Hi Mom....didn't know I was going to share these online, did you?) on what you can do to help keep your marriage or relationship going strong: "Some major, simple things are the most obvious. Goes without saying.....Love each other. More importantly, genuinely like each other. Some of the biggest things, simply put, are honesty, respect, encouragement, support, communication about the big things and even little things, common goals, truly enjoying each other's company, and a good sense of humor. Mutual [Religious] beliefs are important too. Religious beliefs can sometimes be a deal breaker. Neither of us is perfect, nor do we expect the other to be perfect. We each have our hurdles to overcome and we accept that of each other. We have always just "known" that we were going to stay married, so that is the way we have approached it. This is a long term deal, not a short term deal."
She had more to say, but I thought I'd give you all the short version :) I know some of those seem obvious, but it is sometimes the obvious things that are the hardest to do and we just don't think about!
I digress, this weekend my sisters and I surprised our parents and took them to Chicago to see The Blue Man Group! Of course while in the windy city, I had to take 5 minutes (Ok, maybe 7 because we almost got ran over by a car) to take a few pictures in a nice alley! Enjoy and Happy 30th Anniversary mom and dad! Thank you for setting such a good example for us on what we deserve out of a partner!
Random fact: My mom wasn't looking to date when my dad was pursuing her....so he came back to where she worked every night and (like a gentleman) walked her out to her car at the end of her shift until she finally agreed to go on a date with him.
Random Fact: One of my parents is 6 years older than the other (What are you crazy? I can't tell you which one...a daughter can't reveal her mother's true age!), proving that age doesn't really matter!
Random Fact: When my dad proposed to my mom, he proposed with a RING POP! (Don't worry, he had the real ring in the bag with the ring pop, but my mom thought that was it. ha!)
Random Fact: My parents were told they could never have kids, and they had 3 (the first were twins)...somehow love conquers all!
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